Thursday, June 3, 2010


I find, as a woman that craves independence under most situations, that when I am involved with a man I feel is worthy, I become domesticated. I begin doing things I'd otherwise not pay much notice to, like cooking.

Focus on the career building, dream creating, and positive progressions are now inserted with nights where I am, dare I say it, in the kitchen. This is nothing asked of me. To the contrary, I offer it up.

I feel that most women who usually run the show in their careers, and have that dominant personality, secretly crave for a man to bring out the domestic, stereotypically female traits, and even allow for them to show a submissive side.
I'm not against saying that, right now, I am her.

The conclusion to the month of May led to more than a few nights where I was tearing the kitchen down, with anticipation for catering to a man who has been on the go all day. I take pleasure in it. Yet, it's a rarity.

So much so, mid-conversation with my brother led to him asking me to REWIND and RESTATE what I was doing when I told him I was preparing dinner for my boyfriend. He laughed and sent a genuine congrats our way. It's been nearly five years since my last real relationship. So for me to be willingly in the kitchen, after a day of playing Superwoman, has to be something worth noting.

Am I the only one?


Anonymous said...

I'm right there with you. I find myself more willing to cook for that special someone before I want to be knee deep in flour for myself.


evierobbie. said...

It's a beautiful thing, and it sneaks up on you. Satisfaction in the doing and the appreciation. This embedded maternal complex is no bullshit ladies.

Sabre said...

nope! i love cooking for my man, actually i like cooking for anyone i have any degree of fondness for. its nice to take a load off and be submissive, esp. when the man knows how to treat u in return :)

Jah'see said...

I am not a woman...

I've been told that is comes out of the satisfaction of selflessness, and the satisfaction of [partially] tapping into the nurturing nature which women naturally possess.

evierobbie. said...

@Sabre I feel you.

@Jah'see I'd definitely agree. As stated, it is nice to finally be in a situation where I feel like I can let the maternal side show.